So on my online dating site, it is a free site so you do see all kinds of people there. Because of my job, I have chosen not to post my picture up, figuring while it isn’t against the rules, it isn’t the thing to do. I do post that I’m a few pounds overweight (true).
Today I get an email from a guy who has been on the site about as long as I have been. I should have cut and paste it because it was really out of left field. But basically it said “A few pounds means you’re a fattie. You don’t have your picture up because you are ugly. Your profile is boring and unoriginal. Who are you to be picky? You have been on this site a long time because no one wants you. You are a skank and you need to take yourself to the bars to find a drunk man. Get off of this site and quit wasting men’s time.”
Wow. Do you figure someone (not me) isn’t handling rejection well at all? I started to respond but why give the satisfaction? His profile mentions that he is into fitness and working out, so yes he isn’t attracted to overweight women. That’s fine. Everyone has their personal preferences about what is attractive and some people do put more value on the surface than what truly makes up a person (although how often are those the ones who complain how they can’t find a honest good person in their lives). I’m honest I have weight issues. I don’t claim to be average size and then surprise the poor guy at a first meet. I have pictures (less than a year old) and I usually include them in my emails with guys. Skank? No one who knows me would ever call me a skank. That’s about as far off the mark as a person can go in describing me. And yes, I don’t care who you are in this world, everyone has the right to be picky about who they want in their lives. Luckily I have a lot of self-confidence to believe despite my weight, I am deserving a good, intelligent guy who can see me for the wonderful woman I am.
And then poor Steve will be still bitter and alone in the workout room.
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