Yup, he’s on the outs with his girlfriend. Big whoop. Since he is talking about living in his pop up camper at the local campsite, I’m betting his single nature won’t last long. One of the best lines about this came from my sister who said that is one step away from being homeless. Whatever. He likes to talk about being a camper and roughing it, but I bet life in the camper gets old really quick, especially since it has no restroom in the camper. I have to admit, I hope he doesn’t live there long because he won’t be able to take the kids any during the summer and I do look forward to my mini-vacations from parenting. It isn’t that I don’t love my children, but there is a reason single custodial parents need the kids to spend time with non-custodial parent. Being a single parent is intense and we need time to recharge our batteries. I miss them when they are gone and I can’t stop worrying about them. But I am not play the ref to all of their squabbles and I’m able to just relax.
I got a call from the State Attorney General’s office on Friday. They were going to be processing paperwork to get a court date. Woohoo!!! He’s of course wanting to work this out with the court. Duh. I tried to explain to him that it is not working for me to try to collect from him. He gets me emotionally involved with all of his reasons he can’t pay which isn’t fair to me. They will be an unbiased third party. They have experience about what is fair in the collection, especially in regards to his upcoming surgery(ies). He needs to understand the child support is not optional but mandatory. He blames his girlfriend because she gets so upset when he pays me before paying his share of the bills around there. Well, if she was waiting for child support, she would be singing a different tune. But she should not be a factor in the equation. And now that I’m paying health insurance out of pocket, the problem has grown.
He makes all kinds of promises and he really means it at the time he makes promises. He is just bad about following through with his promises. He lets other things (and people) control his life. He’s not a bad guy, he’s just clueless.
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