Yes I’m on Facebook. And here is the notification I got.
In the past day you were compared 3 times. Your friends didn’t think that you are a winner comparing to their other friends.
Not exactly heartwarming. Now I’m not surprised because I’m not the coolest kid on the block but it doesn’t do the ego much good.
I decided (more than once) that I would not discuss politics with friends. I have good friends who I value and believe in but it seems like political discussions just ruin the flavor of the friendship. For the handful who don’t know me intimately, I’m a conservative voter. I actually tend to favor Liberatarism over Republicans but the basis of my thought process is less government, in particular less Federal government. I just can’t see that the Federal government is ever going to do much to help me from Washington. For example, how can you say that the Federal government is fair to receiptants of Federal funds (like Medicare or Social Security) to those in rural Kansas vs those in NYC? The same dollar amounts are used but a dollar in rural Kansas has a different value than it does in NYC (through the principal of cost of living factors). But I digress….
The real issue of this blog post is to say that when friends discuss politics, it always seems to come down to a tone of “I believe I’m much smarter than you are for voting how I’m going to vote”. My feelings have definitely been wounded during these kind of discussions. For example, Liberals want to take care of others through health care plans and welfare programs, while Conservatives believe in higher levels of personal responsibility. It seems like when you have a discussion of this nature, often the conservative proponent is accused of being heartless and uncaring while the liberal minded person is accused of giving away hard earned money. And usually both parties walk away wondering where the intelligence and/or soul of their friend has gone to.
Thus it is usually easier to say nothing. Honestly they aren’t likely to change my mind on how I feel about politics and I doubt I’m persuasive enough to change theirs. Yes some people change their views over time through persuasive arguments but not often enough to risk my friendships.
And for the record, I have met a lot of phenom women who are *gasp* Liberals and I still love them anyway. (Inside joke that I shouldn’t make but damn it the original comment did piss me off.)
When my bestest friend who lives so far away emails with my family to laugh at the fact she has TO on her FF team and I don’t.
And to think she accused me of breaking her laptop in revenge (if only I had thought of that idea).
I really miss having someone to do stuff with. All I really have close by are family. Now don’t get me wrong, I love my parents and siblings, but I wish I had someone my own age close by that I could call up and say, let’s go do… today.
I wish I knew why I am so unattractive as a friend and a mate. I can meet people all day long but I never seem to hit that bonding stage. I can be alone sometimes and enjoy it but there are times I just want to go hang out with someone.
Yes, it is a pity party. I don’t feel like I have friends in life, other than a couple of good ones online who live too far away. I sometimes feel like I’m that person who keeps showing up and everyone wishes would just go away. I make connections but I don’t seem to make bonds.
Moms need vacations too. Just like employees need time away from work to recharge their batteries, so do parents. Since the X gets two weeks of vacation every other week after a mere 2.5 days of parenting, I’m not too worried about his needs. Now common sense would say that he should realize that 2.5 days off every other weekend isn’t really what I’m talking about. I’m talking about getting away, getting drunk and giddy with my friends. Of course the X tried to ruin it but despite his bad behavior, I had a great time.
First of all, Monticello was so cool. I was surprised the rooms were smaller than I would have thought but otherwise, it was all I had dreamed it would be. I hate guided tours though. I would rather explore at my own pace, but life doesn’t always give me what I want.
And then my friends rock!!! It was such a good time. We drank too much, stayed up way too late, didn’t sleep nearly enough, ate badly and had the best time ever. It was such a perfect group. It was cozy and intimate. We shared so many thoughts and feelings. I wouldn’t have traded this time away for anything in the world. I know I’m a better parent for the little break.
But it is back to the regular world again. Thanks Sportzie for having us.
Tomorrow is the big day! I’m beyond excited at getting together with the girls for the weekend. A weekend with friends, with margaritas and acceptance for who I am. There are several others I would kill to have be there with us but life doesn’t work my way all the time.
Suddenly the ex can’t help take care of the kids’ dog (after initially telling me he could). He has suddenly forgotten that KB has a Dazzler performance Friday night. It might be too far for him to take CT for baseball practice with all the other running to our little town for the kids’ stuff.
Luckily my mother is saving his ass. She has arranged for boarding for Roxie over the weekend (all X has to do is let her out in the mornings and the kids will be home with her in the afternoons until X arrives to pick them up). She is taking care of getting CT to his Sat am practice.
My mom thinks he is just resentful I’m leaving to have fun. No Mom, it is that he has never ever comprehended all it takes to get the kids to all of their events. Like last night, he no-showed CT’s game because he was too tired. I never have that option (not that I would, but just not an option even allowed me to consider).
He likes to play the involved father. He likes to pretend he is going to everything. But he cherrypicks showing up to the events, without much consideration of the practices and misc stuff that needs to happen to make the events possible.
Any bets on the kids getting to school on time? Any bets on what gets blown off because he doesn’t have the time or energy to do it?
Looking back to other get togethers, he has always made them difficult for me. I can remember when I went to the one in NC, he had chest pains and I spent a lot of the time worrying about him. I can’t remember what all the issues were while I was in NM, but I remember him calling several times about things. Back when WT was little, X was good with taking care of him. But once the twins came along, it was all too complicated. Not that he will ever admit it, but he just doesn’t get the details that come with kids who are involved in sports and stuff.
And yet, his girlfriend is so convinced I want to win him back. These are the things that make me glad I’m not dealing with him daily. I’m glad I’m not having to care for him any more.
Have fun and have a good weekend!!! Try to do something I would never normally do.
I feel a countdown beginning in my head. Next Thursday I get to combine two favorite things into one. First of all, it has been a life long dream of mine to go to Monticello for a visit. Jefferson has always been a very interesting historical figure to me, the brilliance of his mind, his duality in thought process, etc.
And I get to go to Mere’s. I get to see her boys. I get to see her yard for what it is and rumored to be.
When you can call at 1 am (Central Time) and she answers at 2 am (Eastern Time) and you can talk about dates like two 16 year old girls for an hour.
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